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Is your dog's anxious behavior keeping him (and you) up at night? Here are five calming routines for a good night's rest.

5 Helpful Bedtime Routines to Calm a Restless Dog at Night

Many dogs come alive when the lights go down. They might get the “zoomies” or they may simply pace or want to play. This isn’t great news for us pet parents who are ready to turn in for the night. 

Dogs thrive on routine, so establishing a bedtime routine for your dog is extremely important. For our night owl canines, this might include a few extra calming steps to prep for a good night’s sleep.

How to Calm Down a Dog Before Bedtime

Step 1: Calm Them with Together Time 

Spending time together at the end of the day is a great way for you both to unwind. You might start out with a little playing, perhaps some chase around the house or tug or war.

Kristen Levine napping with dog Tulip
Tulip and I like to snuggle during naps.

Look for your dog’s cues that they’re getting tired, like pausing or refilling on water. Then begin the transition into quiet time together. Choose any quiet activity that you and your pooch both enjoy, like snuggling, stroking their coat, or a gentle ear rubbing.

This time together doesn’t have to be lengthy, even 10-15 minutes may be enough for some dogs. The goal is to provide your dog with reassurance that you’re there for them. This is especially important if your dog’s sleeplessness is rooted in separation anxiety.

Step 2: Give a Calming Treat

Giving your dog a treat at bedtime will give him something special to look forward to every night. Associating bedtime with a yummy snack may also help you to train your pup to settle down for bed.

Just like many dogs who seem to know somehow when it’s time for their people to get home or when it’s time for dinner, you may soon find that your own pooch is reminding you to give him his treat so he can go to sleep!

The Anxious Pet makes a chew for dogs that incorporates calming Acetyl L-Carnitine, magnolia, St. John’s Wart and barberry, plus cannabidiol to help support stress-free relaxation. They come in both bacon and peanut butter flavors

What I love about these, and all of the products from The Anxious Pet, including their Hemp Oil, is that they’re veterinarian formulated. So I can confidently give my pets the right dose, knowing that it’s safe for their specific weight class.

Photo of a jar of Anxious Pet Relax and Roll Soft Chews


Step 3:  Provide a Secure, Comfy Place to Sleep

Does your dog sleep in the same place every night? Most likely the answer is yes! Whether it’s their own doggie bed, a favorite spot on the floor, or a place in bed with you, most pups sleep the best when they’re in their normal sleeping spot. 

My dog, Tulip, sleeps in bed with us, usually right between us with her head poking out. But when she takes her naps, she loves her peach-colored round donut bed. It’s great for dogs who love to curl up and I love it because I can throw the whole thing in the washing machine.

Photo of a dog laying in a fuzzy donut bed


My dog, Chilly, who passed over the rainbow bridge in 2021, loved a bed with bolster sides. It gave him enough room to sprawl out a bit with the added security of something to snuggle up against for the night. This one is made with memory foam (great for a senior dog’s aching joints) and it has a machine-washable cover.

Photo of a dog laying in a memory foam bed


If your dog sleeps on the bed with you, consider giving them their own designated spot on the bed, using a blanket to carve out a little nest. They may wander from it during the night, but knowing they have their own area can help them feel secure enough to fall asleep at night.

If your dog won’t sleep at night, take a look at his bed. If he doesn’t use it, or no longer uses it regularly, he likely needs a new bed better suited to his needs.

Step 4:  Find His Favorite Cuddle Toy

Do you remember how safe and secure you felt as a child when you snuggled in bed with your favorite teddy bear? Well, dogs can also find security from a special toy.

Photo of multi-colored stuffed duck dog toys


Now, not just any old toy will make the paw-fect bedtime buddy. Don’t give him anything with squeakers – that will probably just wind him up and get him in the mood to play! Similarly, anything you usually use to play fetch or tug with may not be the best choice. Ideally, you want a toy that only comes out at bedtime or other “down” times.

This adorable duck makes the perfect bedtime buddy. It’s super soft, squeak-free, and it won’t encourage thoughts of rambunctious play.

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Step 5: Using Calming Scents and Sounds

Many pet parents ask, “What can I give my dog to sleep at night?” However, rather than immediately turning to medications, you might try some more natural therapies.

Some scents can have a calming effect on the human members of the family, and the same is true for our tail-wagging friends. Spraying your dog’s bed or bedtime toys with a calming blend of essential oils is a great way to alleviate any lingering anxiety from the day and get your pup ready to sleep through the night.

Photo of ThunderEssence Dog Calming Essential Oils Spray


I love this all-natural essential oil spray from ThunderEssence, the makers of the ThunderShirt! It’s made with lavender, chamomile, and Egyptian geranium essential oils, and it smells amazing! I’m tempted to spray it on my own pillow, but for now, I’ll save it for Tulip’s bed and cuddle toys!

Classical music can also help calm down a dog and get him ready for bed. I use the Zoundz app for my pets. It’s designed specifically to reduce a dog’s anxiety. I also love that every download contributes towards the Harmony Project – a program designed to alleviate anxiety in shelter pets.

When to Get Help from the Professionals

Even with our best efforts, some dogs will always be more naturally prone to hyperactivity and anxiety. As pet parents, we sometimes wonder if we did something to cause our dog’s anxiety. Did we not give them enough love? Enough exposure to noises and people? 

Dr. Lisa Radosta, DVM, assured me this is often not the case with most dogs who have not experienced trauma (like being surrendered to a shelter). Just like people, some dogs are simply coded to have more anxiety. It’s literally in their DNA! 

You can learn more about that in this post about separation anxiety

So, if you’ve tried the above tips and your dog is still experiencing symptoms, it may be time to call in a behavior consultant. 

I always recommend finding help through the American College of Veterinary Behaviorists. Here you can obtain contact info for a certified veterinarian who specializes in behavioral issues, like anxiety. Who better to advise you on your dog’s health and behavior than a veterinarian? 

With help, even the most anxious dog (and his mom or dad) can get a good night’s sleep!

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Kristen Levine is a nationally acclaimed pet expert, influencer, and Fear Free Certified® Professional with over 30 years of experience in the industry. She's helped millions of pet parents provide the best care at every stage of their pet’s life.

Her blog, Pet Living with Kristen Levine has been featured in Pop Sugar, Good Housekeeping, New York Times, USA Today, and more.

She's also the founder of FWV Fetching, the first marketing agency exclusively serving pet and animal health companies.

Her early work with the SPCA led her to a lifelong career in the pet industry, advocating for pet adoption and rescue as well as for pets and their parents here on her blog and in the media.

She’s frequently booked on satellite media tours and national shows, like FOX & Friends, Good Morning America, and Daytime, to talk about pet trends and new products.

Insanely passionate about pets since she was a little girl, Kristen has had more than 30 pets in her lifetime — including dogs, cats, goats, donkeys, a horse, a gerbil, mice, and chickens!

In 2022, she launched to help pet parents keep pet homes clean -- to love more, stress less.

Kristen is married and lives in the mountains of North Carolina with her dog Tulip.

This Post Has 66 Comments

  1. Question…we have a 4 year old Aussie who has slept in his crate since a pup, but we recently removed the crate (remodeling the bedroom) and he’s sleeping in our bed or in his doggie donut or on the floor. This began about 3 weeks ago and now he’s a lot more anxious, less willing to walk or play fetch…he seems “off”. Could it be the disruption of his crate routine is causing the change in behavior? Add to it, the kids are going back to school now in person, so his people aren’t here as much since the March quarantine.

    thanks for you help – D

    1. Hi Derek,

      Yes I would say that this disruption in his routine could be a cause of this behavior. Was he ever experiencing anxiety prior to these changes? If not, that could be another indicator that the routine disruption is the cause.

      I would say between the remodel and the kids returning back to school, he is trying to figure out how to adjust to this new normal. Since these changes are temporary, I would try to keep the other elements of his routine the same if you can. Meaning keep his same feeding time, walks, and playtime.

      I also created an Ebook that might have some more in-depth advice for you. It is my back to work guide as many people are returning to the office since COVID hit in March, but it could easily double as a “Back to School” guide since your kids are back in the classroom! You can download it here (it’s free).

      I hope this helps! Let me know


  2. I have a 12 year old poodle his a winny and bark all night long i gve him some treat cuddle with him and he stop, but when i put him back to his bed start doing the same thing whT should i do

    1. Hi Edna,

      Has he always done this? If not, I would take him to the vet to make sure they rule out any underlying medical condition since he is a senior pup! Does he have a daily routine? If you have a set playtime, feeding times, walking time, and bedtime he will be more likely to sleep through the night. If you don’t have a routine for him, it’s not too late to get him adjusted to one!

      I make sure to exercise my dogs regularly throughout the day so they are actually tired at bedtime. That is key to getting them to sleep. Have you ever tried hemp treats? They are naturally calming and could help him to sleep better at night! I personally love these from The Anxious Pet.

      Let me know if this helps! Good luck!


  3. My cousin has adopted an older Newfoundland dog and they seem really anxious but she wants to make sure that the bed can be more comfortable while sleeping. Getting a dog bed from a professional could be really useful and be big enough so that she fits on it comfortably. I’ll be sure to tell her about how they should be comfy and cozier in their sleeping spot that can be moved.

      1. Hi we have a 5 year old lhasa apso and normally he sleeps fine on his bed in my mums room but since before the 5th november he has refused to wanting to ve on my muks bed but she has chronic athritis he digs at door and ony settles onnher bed then on floor by her bed

        1. Hi Lynsey,

          I am sorry to hear your dog is anxious at night! Has he recently had a change in his routine? That could be the cause. Dogs thrive on routine, so if something changes, no matter how minor, it can cause some anxiety. Additionally, his arthritis could be a contributing factor. I would definitely check with your vet to determine if he could benefit from treatment!

          In the meantime, I really like The Anxious Pet calming CBD solutions. I put the oil on Tulip’s food when she is extra hyper before bedtime. She gobbles it right up! My pets also both love their hemp chews! They come in peanut butter and bacon flavor. You can check them out here.

          I hope this helps and he can get some relief soon! Keep me posted.

  4. I have a two year old xxl pitbull, he resembles a boerboel. February of 2020 he was diagnosis with seizures. I was prescribed keppra up to 5000 mg a day ( he is a big boy). He was having seizures once every other month. This past month he had 2 seizures back to back and we asked for keppra time release, he also gave my pet zonisamide to take with keppra. I am trying to explain to my vet that my dog has very bad anxiety at night time and it seems to me they think I am crazy. Our routine everyday starts off as going out to the yard and handling his business, my husband and I go to work, he is fine all day he sleeps or plays with our other pet. When we come home from work of course they go out and we all eat dinner together. When the suns goes down he becomes nervous. drooling, panting. We try to tire him out and some nights it works some nights it doesn’t. King sleeps with me for about 2 hours and than he knows to go to his bed for the rest of the night ( which is in our room ) I feel that is our time together to end our long day. There are nights he sleeps and there are nights ( a week straight) he doesn’t get sleep. He fights it and I feel he is so scared to fall asleep cause he is worried he will have another seizer. He has seen a neurologist and got many test done and everything was clear. They seen a very small spot on his brain but couldn’t confirm if that was the problem. I feel so bad for my pet and I need help and so tips on how to make some night better for us.

  5. My dog is 9 years old and I have had her since she was 4 months old. She is an anxious dog in general but these past few nights her anxiety has been getting worse. She usually sleeps in bed with me. Once she goes to sleep she does not move, even if i go to sleep way after her she does not wait for me. The past few nights, If I am not in bed when she is ready to go to sleep, she will stare at me until i get in bed. Once I lay down, she starts to shake and request pets. She doesn’t stop clawing at my hand and trying to give me an excess of kisses until I close my eyes and am cuddling her. What does this mean and how can I reduce her bed-time anxiety?

    1. Hi Andrea,
      Have there been any changes in her routine recently? That could have caused her to have some extra bedtime anxiety. It’s best to bring this behavior up to your vet so they can rule out any underlying issues causing the behavior.

      I would suggest making sure she has a clear bedtime routine. Take her outside, make sure she has been fed and has had playtime. Those things will help her to actually feel tired at bedtime. The Anxious Pet makes calming chews that are great for dogs with anxiety! My dogs love them. You can get them here.

      I hope this helps! Good luck and I hope your pup feels better soon!


  6. Thank you for sharing your post about 5 Bedtime Routines to Calm an Anxious Dog. Thanks for the great tips and suggestions. I learned something. Nice photos also. I will bookmark this site.

  7. We have a 3 year old terrier mix that we adopted about a week ago. Aside from his separation anxiety, he’s an angel dog during the day. After our hour plus walks in the morning, he sleeps and rests most of the day. We take him out 3-4 more times for shorter walks and potty breaks and generally he gets about 2.5 hours of walking time in total. He seems a bit uninterested in play time but we try to get some of that in as well. But then around 6 pm he turns into a different dog, won’t let us eat dinner without barking constantly and begging and is generally extremely agitated for about an hour. We take him into the bedroom and have to hold him to calm him down. The rest of the night is usually smooth after that with him resting and then easily sleeping (trying to crate train but he’s stubborn so he’s been sleeping on our bed). I’m wondering if you have any recommendations for how to calm him during this time.

  8. Hello! We adopted our dog about 7 months ago, and she is just now about to turn 1. When we first got her we had no problems getting her to sleep through the night. No matter what we did throughout the day she would start to settle around 7pm in her crate and wake up around 4am for a quick potty break, then sleep on the ground next to the couch until 6.
    In the past 3-4 months she’s been getting worse with sleeping. Roughly 1-2 times a week she’ll wake up in the middle of the night whimpering. At first we thought it was potty related, and it was hit or miss of whether or not she actually needed to. But always after taking her out she would run over by the couch and try to sleep on the ground instead of her crate. The first few nights we allowed it, but then realized it was creating a bad pattern. We did some research and felt it was separation anxiety. My husband is retired and home with her all day.
    Since realizing this, we have tried keeping her in the crate and occasionally acknowledging her to know we are close by, but she’ll whimper throughout the night. We just want a full nights rest, and don’t really want her in the bed. We would love some suggestions. Thank you!

  9. Thank you for the really helpful tips.

    We have a 9-week old west highland terrier called Hugo. We find that when he cries in the night for what we think is a trip outside to the toilet – he has already done his business in the pen without making a sound.

    Any helpful thoughts would be most welcome.

    All the best,

    1. Hi Adam,

      Congrats on your new puppy! Potty training takes time, and it can definitely pose a challenge when he is going while you’re asleep. Consistency is huge when house breaking puppies. This means that he should have a predictable meal time, play time, walk time, and even a predictable place to go potty. When you take him outside to potty, take him on a leash and go to the same spot each time. That way, he can associate that place with where he needs to potty.

      Additionally, ensure you are taking him out enough! For puppies that are 8-12 weeks old or dogs under 8 lbs, take a trip outside about once per hour. He should also go out after waking up, before going to bed, and right after eating.

      Once it is time, getting him neutered will help him be less likely to mark his territory, too.

      I hope this helps! Keep me posted.


  10. My boyfriend & I rescued a puppy from a shelter at 10 wks old. From day one he has expressed signs of separation anxiety. We have tried multiple tactics but still almost 2 years later he still whines & barks when we put him in his crate and leave. (he sleeps in his crate at night without incident, which was not the case for the first year so we are making progress) He is not so bad when we leave separately but when we leave together it seems to ramp up his whining, scratching at the crate, & barking. Any suggestions? (We have tried just leaving for 10 mins at a time on multiple occasions but he is still freaking out when we get back)

    1. Hi Cindy,

      I am so sorry your dog has separation anxiety. This issue isn’t uncommon in dogs, and it is heartbreaking!

      Have you ever tried Adaptil diffusers? They release calming pheromones, or “happy messages” into the air. They are odorless to humans, but can really help to keep him calm. You can put one in the room where his crate is. Additionally, I really like Zylkene. It is a anti-anxiety supplement made from dehydrated milk. You can sprinkle this over food, into a treat, or in his mouth before you leave the house to help him to feel more at ease.

      I would also recommend talking to your vet if the issue persists. If his anxiety is severe, he could benefit from medication.

      Hope this helps!

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