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How to Identify and Solve Your Cat’s Separation Anxiety

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Does your cat yowl or start racing through the house when you’re getting ready to leave? Do you find destroyed drapes or poop on the floor when you return? If so, your cat may be suffering from separation anxiety.

Some pet parents, however, may miss these signs of anxiety for one major reason – they don’t think their cat could have it.

Can Cats Have Separation Anxiety?

Contrary to popular belief, cats are not always solitary creatures and can indeed experience separation anxiety. While this is often overlooked in cats, it’s crucial to recognize the signs. This is especially true for cats who were orphaned or who are suddenly alone after long periods of being with their humans.

cat separation anxiety with cat alone at home

They are the boss of their surroundings and they’re a bit of type A personality. This means when something is out of order, like their human being gone when they’re usually at home, it causes them stress.

In a survey conducted by Ceva Animal Health, nearly 60% of cats in US households showed signs of stress or anxiety.

Is Separation Anxiety Harmful to Cats?

Yes. A cat can be temporarily stressed, but when it persists it leads to anxiety and associated behaviors. If you’re planning on getting a cat or currently have a cat, don’t assume that you can be gone for long periods of time and the cat will be ok.

Over time, anxiety affects the immune system and can lead to a higher prevalence of disease and harm your cat’s quality of life.

That’s why it’s important to know the signs of separation anxiety in cats – and how to help our feline friends overcome it.

9 Signs of Cat Separation Anxiety

Cats are great at picking up on our patterns and routines. Hibiki, a rescue cat in the Pet Living family, can always tell when his pet mom, Alyssa, is getting ready to leave the house.

“I don’t know how, but he always knows long before I grab my keys or head out the door – and he always gets excited and begs for a treat as soon as he figures it out,” Alyssa said. “I gave him one once, and it’s become a tradition. He also can tell when I’m only getting ready to go outside to garden or ride my bike and won’t beg those times.”

For many cats, though, signs that their pet parent is leaving fill them with anxiety. But how do they show it?

You may see some of these signs when you’re preparing to leave, or you may see them when you return.

anxious cat meowing

1. Increased Vocalization

Cats don’t generally meow at other cats. Most cats reserve their meows for humans. So if you hear your cat meowing more than usual – or even yowling – when you’re getting ready to leave, they may be feeling anxiety.

2. Overgrooming/Hair Loss

While cats usually groom to clean themselves, it also can be a way to self-soothe. An anxious cat may groom themselves until they develop bald patches in their fur.

3. Pacing/Restlessness

Most cats get “the zoomies” from time to time. But if your cat only goes into hyperdrive when you’re leaving, they may be getting stressed.

cat hiding due to cat separation anxiety

4. Hiding

Hiding is a very common sign of a stressed cat. Your cat may hide under the bed or in a closet. They’re looking for a place to feel safe and secure to comfort themselves.

5. Clinginess

If your cat doesn’t want you to leave, they may become very clingy. This may include following you around the house or begging to be held.

6. Destructive Behavior

Destructive behavior includes scratching, chewing, or shredding. When you come home and find your normally non-destructive cat has clawed the curtains or scratched up a door frame, anxiety may be to blame.

7. Litter Box Issues

Litter box issues include peeing or pooping outside the litter box. This can also be caused by various medical conditions. Consult your veterinarian to eliminate any medical reasons first.

cat being aggressive toward another cat

8. Aggression

Aggression could be toward humans or other animals. This includes things like swiping at your ankles as you walk down the hall. Your cat also may hiss at or start fights with any other cats or dogs in your family.

9. Twitching or Trembling

Humans may tremble when they’re frightened, too, but it looks a little different in cats. Twitching or trembling may include flicking their tail back and forth or moving their ears around.

If you regularly see any of these signs when you leave your house or return, it’s likely your cat has separation anxiety. But what can you do to help?

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How to Identify and Solve Your Cat's Separation Anxiety

How to Help Your Anxious Cat with Their Separation Anxiety

No one likes to see their cat suffer from anxiety. But most pet parents don’t know what to do about it. In fact, in the same survey mentioned above, 23% of pet parents of anxious cats said they didn’t know what to do about their cat’s anxiety. And another 37% decided to simply wait and see if the issue resolved itself!

Sadly, behavioral issues don’t generally go away on their own. But that doesn’t mean it’s a hopeless situation! There are many things you can do to help.

cat going to vet due to anxiety

1. Talk with Your Veterinarian

If you suspect your cat has separation anxiety, speak with your veterinarian. They can make sure there aren’t any medical issues at play. Depending on how severe your cat’s anxiety is, they may recommend a supplement or medication.

2. Don’t Make a Big Deal Out of Leaving

It may be tempting to pet your anxious cat or give them extra attention before you leave. Ironically, this may do more harm than good. That’s because it makes your leaving an “event.”

The more low-key your departure is, the better. If possible, put your keys, purse, or other items in your car well before you actually leave.

If you notice a specific trigger is making your cat anxious, use it “out of order.” For example, if your cat starts meowing when you pick up your keys, try picking the keys up and walking around for a bit. Then put them back without leaving home. By setting off your cat’s triggers without actually leaving, your cat will gradually become less sensitive to them.

cat playing with toy to keep them entertained while alone

3. Keep Them Entertained

Even when you’re not there, you can entertain your cat. Make sure they have perches where they can see the outside world. Toys should be available, too. See my favorite recommendations for enrichment here.

Food puzzles can be a great way to entertain your cat. They stimulate your cat mentally, occupy their time, and give them a fun reward at the end.

4. Try a Pheromone Diffuser

Pheromone diffusers, like this one from Feliway, help calm your cat when you’re not home. They work by sending out the natural pheromones a mother cat gives off to calm her kittens.

cat relaxing in its safe space

5. Create a Safe Place for Them

Make a safe and cozy haven for your cat where they can find comfort when you’re gone. This may include a comfortable cat bed in a tucked-away corner. It also may include their favorite toys – or even a shirt you’ve worn that has your scent.

6. Monitor Your Pet

Your cat’s safety and well-being are a top priority. However, when you’re not home, you may feel out of touch with your pet. Pet cams allow you to monitor your pet’s health as well as identify any signs of separation anxiety when you can’t be there personally.

7. Consider a Veterinary Behaviorist

If you are not having any success with these methods, consider consulting a veterinary behaviorist. These specialists focus on helping animals conquer their fears and behavioral issues. Go to to find a veterinary behaviorist near you.

The Tail End

Separation anxiety can cause our feline friends a lot of distress, but it doesn’t have to be that way. By knowing the signs of cat separation anxiety, we can be ready to give our furry family members the help they need to live happy, anxiety-free lives.

Kristen Levine is a nationally acclaimed pet expert, influencer, and Fear Free Certified® Professional with over 30 years of experience working with pets.

Through this blog and her book, Pampered Pets on a Budget, Kristen has helped millions of pet parents solve problems and provide the best care for their dogs and cats.

Working alongside hundreds of pet professionals, including veterinarians, behaviorists and trainers inspired Kristen to become a pet parenting “guide”, providing readers with reliable information about health, wellness and lifestyle for dogs and cats and the people who love them.

A dogged advocate for pet adoption and rescue, Kristen has featured over 1,000 adoptable dogs and cats from the SPCA on live television and radio appearances to get them adopted. Her blog, has been featured in over 100 media outlets – including the New York Times, USA Today, FOX & Friends, Good Morning America, Women's Day, Reader's Digest, Good Housekeeping, Pop Sugar and more.

To stay up to date on the latest health and lifestyle trends for pets, Kristen regularly attends the top veterinary and pet product conferences, where she’s often a featured speaker.

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